Friday, March 27, 2009

A Tree is a Tree

I was watching a debate over the question of the existence Satan this morning and one of the two men who denies the existence of Satan kept making the following statement:
"When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change."

His point was that Satan is a figment of our imagination. While I disagree with his view of Satan, I also think there is a much deeper problem with his statement: Things do not change when you change the way you look at them. Our perspective changes, but the object of our site does not fundamentally change. While the statement about things changing when we change the way look at them changes is clever, and I would even say cute, it is fundamentally based on a lie.

A simple example should help. If I look at a tree from the base of the tree I will see what looks like a bunch of individual twigs and sticks and limbs intertwining. However, I will also see that there is space between the limbs where birds and squirrels make their homes. Now if I move 500 feet back from the tree and change the way I look at it my perception will be completely different. I may see a mass of leaves sitting atop a trunk coming from the ground. At this distance I may not even be able to see the limbs and twigs and sticks that I was able to see earlier, but that does not mean that the tree has changed just because I can't see the twigs, limbs, and sticks. It is still the same tree with all the same features, I just see those features differently, and I would say that my perspective has changed. But a tree is still a tree with limbs, sticks, and twigs no matter the way I look at it. My view cannot change what a tree is.

I know the man who made this statement was probably not necessarily referring to tangible objects such as trees, but the same can be said about the thoughts of our minds as well. This growing idea that we create knowledge and truth through experience is tearing down the foundations for all of life. When we remove a standard bearer of truth and lie, right and wrong, good and evil, then we are opening our lives to the rule of chaos, and in a chaotic society, the physically strong will rule the physically weak because there is no basis to tell the strong that they are wrong in their thoughts and their actions. Without a truth that transcends human thought and experience, the moral and ethical bounds of society collapse and fall back onto the strength of the mob to push their ideas on the smaller mobs.

Truth is truth, and it is beyond our thoughts and experiences and ultimately in my Christian thought truth is experienced by knowing the truth personally through Jesus. Jesus prayed that we would be sanctified by truth, and that truth is the Word of God. The Bible reveals the truth that transcends thought and experience and stands as the standard bearer for good and evil, truth and lie, right and wrong. We put our faith and trust in the truth of the man that the Bible tells the story of, Jesus Christ. Through His life, death, and resurrection He opened the way for man back to a right relationship with God, who is truth.

I can't change a rock to gold by thinking differently about it anymore than I can make God not exist by choosing to believe that He doesn't. God exists beyond my thought, and no matter what I think or perceive or experience, He will continue to be real. If you think that truth is only what you think or experience, then put it to the test and step out in front a moving car and just think that it won't hit you and kill you. However, if you want to live in reality, accept the fact that there are truths in this world that are beyond our thought and experience and therefore cannot be changed by the way we think.

Tuesday, March 3, 2009

Is it ok to be friends with people who aren’t Christians?

Yes, Jesus had many friends who were not Christians. In fact, this was the biggest criticism that religious people said about Him. He spent time with sinners and ultimately they began saying that Jesus himself was a sinner because He spent time with sinners. However, as we know from 1 Peter, Jesus never sinned. Therefore, while Jesus spent a lot of time with people who were not Christians He did not let them influence His life in any way. His closest friends loved Him and desired to follow Him. This is a good example for us. We should be influencing all of the non Christians around us to look to Jesus as our source of life. However, we should never be so close to a non Christian that we allow them to influence the direction of our life. This is why 2 Corinthians 6:14 is so important to live. We should not be in a close, intimate relationship with non Christians. However, having said that, Jesus also said that we should go and tell the world about Him and that starts in our neighborhoods, homes, and schools by living a life in front of non Christians that honors Jesus as our Lord and Savior. So ultimately I think Jesus expects us to have friends that are not Christians so as to allow God to work through our lives and our words to help a non Christian understand who Jesus is; but we should never allow a non Christian to influence our hearts and minds in any way.

How do you trust God if you can’t feel him around you?

You trust God the same way that you trust that you will have oxygen when you breathe. You can’t see oxygen or feel it emotionally (which is what most mean when they wonder why they can’t “feel” God) but every time you breathe, oxygen goes into your lungs and allows you to live until the next breath. It’s just a fact that oxygen is there when you breathe and that God is allows near.
All of us are going to experience valleys and mountaintops in our walk with God. In the valleys it can “feel” like God is far away. In these times we need to remind ourselves of the words of Jesus when He said, “I will never leave you or forsake you.” God does not go anywhere. Psalm 139 says that we can’t go anywhere to get away from God. He is wherever we go. These, like oxygen, are facts spoken to us by the most trustworthy source available, the mouth of God. So while science can prove that oxygen is always near us, the words of God can be trusted to be true even if we can’t “feel” the truth of them. God will give us mountaintop experiences of himself like He did for Moses, Elijah, Peter, James, and John, but it is in the valleys that He sustains with His word, the Bible.
Therefore, the way we trust Him when we can’t “feel” Him is to read and memorize his word. The Bible is full of people’s lives who trusted God when he felt close and when He didn’t feel close. The life of Moses is a good example. I doubt Moses felt God as closely as he did at the burning bush when he was talking to Pharaoh. But the fact remained that God had told Moses what to do, and God had said that He would be with Moses. It was a fact in Moses’s life, not a feeling only.
Faith in God and His word must stand in the gap of our emotional feelings about God. He is still our Savior, our King, and our Lord even if we don’t “feel” close to Him.

How do you help one of your friends come to know Christ?

First, let me state that only God can bring your friends to the point where they desire to become a Christian. We cannot manipulate people, talk people into or argue people into a true, saving relationship with God. Our friends who are not Christians are dead people according to Ephesians 2:1 (as we all were before God saved us). This is referring to their spiritual life. They are dead spiritually, and dead people don’t make decisions (unless we are living in some kind of crazed zombie flick and even then I have to ask if zombies really do make decisions). God has to work in their lives and awaken their spirits to a need for Jesus and until God does this your friends will not become a Christian.
Having said that, there are some things we can do that God will use in our friends lives to cause them to see their need for Christ.
First, we must live lives that show the transforming power of Jesus. If we call ourselves Christians and make all the same choices morally and ethically that our lost friends make then we show that there is no difference between Christians and non Christians. This also paints Jesus in a bad light. Almost everyone knows someone who will not come to church on the basis that someone at church or who goes to church treats them poorly. This is offensive to Jesus if we act without love towards others. Our lives must show the power of God to change a person and take a broken life and make it whole.
Second, talk to your friends about Jesus and try to answer their questions. Don’t shy away from talking about Jesus just because someone has told you they have heard it all before or because they say they don’t want to talk about it. Jesus is the most important person in your life if you are a Christian and them asking you not to talk about Him is like you asking them never to mention their boyfriend or girlfriend again in your presence. If you asked them not to talk about people who were important to them they would be offended just as you should be if they tell you not to talk about Jesus.
Third, share your story of how you became a Christian. Be able to answer these three questions in one sentence each: 1) What was your life like before Jesus? 2) What happened that caused you to believe in Jesus? 3) How has your life been different since trusting Jesus with your life? Being able to answer these questions will help you shape your testimony, or the story of How Jesus has changed your life. No one can argue with the fact that God has changed your life. They may try to argue that there is no God or that Jesus was just a man, but they cannot argue with the fact that Jesus has changed your life.
Fourth, you should pray for your friends that are not Christians. Since only God can save your friends then you should be constantly asking Him to do so. There are people who have prayed for friends and loved ones for years before God answered that prayer. In God’s infinite knowledge He knows how and when to answer our prayers in the best way. Pray for your friends and then trust that God will answer that prayer.
Also, let me say a word to those of you who say you don’t talk to your friends about God because you don’t think it is right to push God on someone. As a Christian, and stating that you are a Christian you are essentially stating that there is only one way to God. Jesus said in John 14:6 that no one comes to God the Father except through Him (Him being Jesus). If no one can come to the Father except through Jesus, then stating that you don’t talk to your friends about Jesus because you don’t want to offend them or push God on them is essentially looking them in the face and saying, “You can go to hell and I don’t care as long as you are not offended by me.” Not only is this passive stance in talking about Jesus cruel to your friends, it is also a disobedience and therefore a sin to Jesus. Jesus said in Matthew 28:19-20 that we are to go and make disciples, or Christ followers, of all those we come into contact with everyday. By not doing this we not obeying Jesus in the name of being politically correct. So who is your God, political correctness or Jesus? You can’t serve them both when it comes to talking to your friends about Jesus.
Lastly, to those of you who are still not convinced that you should talk to your friends about Jesus let me ask you this; what is so bad and terrible about Jesus? You are trying to introduce your friends to a God who loves them more than anyone else, will forgive their sins, heal their hurts, give them peace in life, guidance in life, and care for them, and will ultimately one day take them to heaven to live with Him forever. Yes that is your terrible agenda. Peace, joy and the unconditional love of God is the message that you are withholding from your friends.
You carry the gift of God in your words, and God can use your words to work in the life of your friends so be bold about Jesus, and talk to everyone you can about Him.

So if I surrender my life to God, will my life be easier?

Yes, in a way. Jesus never promises us that we won’t have pain again once we trust Him with our lives. In fact Jesus actually promised the opposite. He said that the world will hate you and persecute you because of your love for Jesus. Not exactly what we would call easy. However, God does promise care, guidance, and peace when you trust Him with your life. Proverbs 3:6 says that God will make your paths straight. He will guide you in the decisions and choices of life and lay out the path for you. Philippians 4:7 promises peace in all circumstances of life, even pain. And the care comes from a loving Father in Heaven who cares for his children so much that He knows how many hairs we have on our head. He knows us better than we know ourselves and that gives Him the ability to care for us in our lives. So while trusting in Jesus will not take away pain in life, it will be easier with the guidance, love, and care of the Father in heaven to live life. And this is the way that I can answer, “Yes your life will be easier when you trust God.” But please don’t think I have said that you will never have pain, struggles, or hard decisions again. With God these moments of pain in life become easier.

Will God put me back on the right track if I get off?

I would refer you to my answer for question to the question, “How can I work with God to straighten my life out if I mess up,” here. God will work in your life, but there is also a sense of personal responsibility in the Bible that we cannot get around. We must be active in our desire to straighten our lives out. God will work and move and do so when and how He wishes and our response as a Christian to his work in our lives will determine the path of our lives.

I’ve been dating a great guy and things are getting a little to serious. How do I tell him that I want a more Godly relationship?

The second part of this question is easier than the first. You must simply talk to him about your feelings and thoughts. Make sure your motives are pure. Don’t go into the conversation in a prideful way and tell him what he has to do, but you should be caringly firm with your words. Express your desire to build your relationship on a solid foundation, and that foundation being the life and power of Jesus in your relationship. Tell him you want to pray together, read your Bible together, and talk about God and what God is doing in your lives together. Also, express to him the seriousness of how you feel about this. If he is a Godly man who cares for you he will respond positively to these requests. If he is angered and says he doesn’t agree with you then you will have a hard decision to make as to whether or not to continue in that relationship. However, I would add that if a boyfriend doesn’t want to help you walk with God, then he will not be a husband who wants to walk with God in your relationship. Read Ephesians 5:22-33 and ask your self if the guy you are dating will be the husband found in those verses. If he is not, then you should part ways with him.
Now the first part of this question is a little difficult. When most teens tell me that their relationships are “to serious,” it usually means there are beginning to be signs of struggling physically. They are beginning to see themselves stepping on a path that will lead them farther than they wanted to go physically with a boy or girl. I don’t know if that is the case here, but for those reading this and that is the case then I want to say something that I know you will not like, but I must say it. If you are struggling physically you will need to take a break in the relationship of at least 90 days. You won’t see each other, talk to each other, or contact each other in any way for that period. This seems to be the only way to get over the attachment that physical intimacy causes between a boy and a girl. This will be the hardest thing you will have done up to this point in your life, but it is necessary if you want to have a relationship built on a Godly foundation. After this time you can see each other again but only in the company of others. You should not be alone again until you both stand before God and the world and say “I do” and you are married.
Also, when relationships are “to serious” it sometimes means that the girl/boy feels like he/she is falling in love at a young age with a girl/boy. This is also cause for concern because the odds are against you that this relationship will last beyond high school. Both guys and girls must “guard their hearts” in relationships and not allow themselves to be to close to a boyfriend or girlfriend until it is time; and that time is engagement and marriage, and no sooner.

If being cool keeps me from doing right things, what should I do?

Redefine what cool is for your life. The word “cool” is so relative that it is almost absurd. I mean in the 70’s being cool meant wearing bell bottoms and dancing like John Travolta. Today being cool may mean wearing the right clothes (you know all the ones your friends wear), having the right hair, the right car, saying the right words, and on and on. Being cool for someone like Kanye West is much different from someone like Billy Graham. Both of these men would define “cool” in different terms. The ultimate question is, “Is your definition of “cool” in line with what the Bible says is a Godly life or is it in line with what the Bible calls sin?” Getting drunk and having sex with your girlfriend may be cool to your friends, but it is not cool with God. God calls that kind of life a sin. So read your Bible, and look at your life and if the “cool” things in your life are things that God calls sin then you must get rid of them. This may mean a sacrifice of some sorts. Perhaps your reputation or popularity will not be the same or your friends will walk away from you and that will be ok. As long as you are redefining cool to match the Bible you will be in step with God and find others who want to be your friends because of your love that you have for God, for the Bible, and for them.

How can I tell my friends that they are a bad influence and do I need to get away from them?

First, I think you must be lovingly honest with your friends. I would tell them that when they do things that you don’t think are right and don’t want to do that they hurt you not only by pressuring you to conform, but that it hurts you to see them do things in their life that you know are going to cause them pain. Second, if you choose to speak with your friends about this talk about respect. If your friends are influencing and pressuring you in a direction you don’t want to go then tell them that you don’t feel respected by them for who you are. They want you to be like them or else they won’t like you and will make fun of you. That isn’t respect, it is pride on their part, and is therefore a sin.
To answer the second part, should you get away from them, I would say that if you can’t stand up to them and do the right thing and their actions cause you to sin against God then yes you should get away from them. Some people have the ability to stand up to others for what they believe and not compromise, if you can’t do this then you must find new influences that will guide you to a more Godly lifestyle. Perhaps, once you are a stronger Christian, God will guide you back into your friend’s lives that you had to walk away from so that you can be a Godly influence on their lives.

Is it a sin to call someone a fool?

This question must be answered Yes and No. While it is correct that Jesus used the word fool and said that if you call someone that you will be cast into hell, we cannot just take that verse out of the rest of the Bible and say it is a sin to call someone a fool. In Matthew 5:22 Jesus stated, “Whoever says, ‘You fool’ shall be in danger of hell fire.” However, if you look at what else Jesus said when He said this it is clear that he is talking about something bigger than using the word fool. He is speaking of anger and bitterness that we harbor towards other people. This is a much deeper issue than using the word fool. It is, as it almost always is with Jesus, a heart and sin issue, not a verbal word usage issue. Besides if it is a sin to simply call someone a fool then God himself would be a sinner as the verses listed below all contain God calling people fools.
So who does God call a fool? The short answer is that God calls a person a fool who does acknowledge the power of God in this world and who lives their life in rebellion to God. That person is a sinner and a fool in the eyes of God.
In answer to the question then, I think we should discretion when calling people fools and not rush to such a powerful word when talking to people. However, the Bible is clear as to who the fools of this world are. Those that do not live for Jesus and submit to his authority on this earth are living and building lives on shifting sand, and there is no greater fool than a man who builds his house on a foundation that will fall one day.

Psalm 14:1 and Psalm 53:1 – Those who don’t believe in God are called fools

Proverbs and Ecclesiastes use fool repeatedly

Luke 12:20 God calls the man who does not honor Him with his money a fool.

1 Cor. 15:36 – Paul calls those who deny the power of God to raise Jesus from the dead fools.

How can I work with God to straighten my life out if I mess up?

James 4:8-10 are great verses when it comes to our role in straightening out our sinful lives. The Bible says in Romans 8:28-30 that God is actively conforming us to the image of His son. He is active in our lives, not a passive God who is distant from us. However, as Christians we have a role in these actions of God that are changing us into the image of Jesus and the verses in James are a good place to see the actions we must take.
First, we must draw near to God. Just as I must be close to my wife emotionally, spiritually, mentally, and physically for us to have a relationship we must also draw close to God. We do this through prayer and Bible study and application. We must speak to God, learn from God through the Bible, and live out what God teaches.
Secondly, we must be sad over our sinful state. When James says that we should weep and mourn he is not saying that we should go into depression but rather we should see the sin in our lives and be heartbroken over it. Earlier in this chapter he says that friendship with the world is hostility to God, and if we find ourselves in this situation it should cause us sadness at the state of our lives. We cannot look at our sin and act like it is no big deal because Jesus says that it is a big deal. God looks at our sin as a Father looks at his child who has done wrong. There is still love, but correction must come.
Lastly, when the correction of our sin comes we must humble ourselves before God. Humility is the ability to look to God and ask for forgiveness and direction. It’s the freedom to release your pride that you know how to live your life better than God does. Physically humble yourself before God by bowing on your knees as you picture him on his throne. He is our King, our Savior, and our God and the only way to approach him is with humbleness in our hearts. For more on humility or to read about this all important aspect of the Christian life read C.J. Maheny’s wonderful book simply called “Humility.” God will straighten your life out as you walk in humility. And God is constantly conforming and changing your life to match the life of Jesus.